NARCISSISM

Most people have a healthy amount of self-interest that we call narcissism; however, in some people their degree of self-involvement is extreme and limits their ability to notice and care about other people.  We call this Toxic Narcissism.

People trying to love a narcissist feel helpless, ashamed, but mostly just crazy, as reality is distorted by the narcissist, whose needs are always more important than the family or spouse's needs.  Normal requests for kindness, consideration, love, or attention are met by the narcissist with childish sulking and vicious blaming attacks.  Narcissists often feel threatened by their spouse or children's successes in life. 

CHARACTERISTICS OF A NARCISSIST:

• Grandiosity:  He values "the best", has grand and exciting plans, many of which he completes successfully.  He scorns and is bored with "normal" family life and activities.

• Entitlement:  His needs and wishes are more important than anyone else's and he expects to be satisfied no matter the cost to the family.

• No Empathy or Sense of Humor: The narcissist cannot put himself "in another's shoes" to imagine their pain or discomfort.  He is insensitive to the needs of others.

• Criticism Flows Only One Way:  He attacks others, but reacts with rage or indifference if he is criticized; takes no responsibility for hurting others or making mistakes.

• Does Not Give Emotionally:  He gives flattery, presents, or promises, but not understanding or genuine caring.

Nancy Schleich, LISW-S
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Bexley, Ohio 43209
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